My Greatest Enemy is My Inner Me

This blog will tell the story of an up-and-coming young black man in his 20's

Thursday, September 28, 2006

Aww Snap, Do I Got The Power?

First of all, thanks to all that came by to comment about "The Baby Makes Three" story........What will I do? Honestly, the Mack in me says bang the preg puss out, but Rob (My Inner Me) says keep it trucking. I'm sure I'll revisit this in the future.



But here's my thought for the day.



I definitely need the fellas input because I think that this may be a male issue.


Ladies, if this is something that is not gender specific, please by all means, feel free to comment. Hell, comment anyways!


At what age do you realize that you have the power? In the sense of talking to women, and having a way with the opposite sex? I'm asking because it's finally starting to hit me at the prime age of 27.333333333333 (lol)......


They say an athlete begins his prime around 25 to 29. If you look at your favorite baseball, basketball, and football players of today, most of them fall in this age bracket, and statistically their numbers will coincide. MJ was 28 when he won his first championship in 1991. Kobe Bryant was 27 during this past season, in which had his highest points per game average of his career. Allen Iverson had just turned 26 when he led the Sixers to the NBA Finals in 2001. Alex Rodriguez of the NY Yankees was 25 when he signed his 10 year/250 mil contract in 2000 with the Texas Rangers. Ray Lewis of the B-More Ravens was 25 when he won his first NFL Defensive Player of the Year award in 2000 , and Brian Urlacher of my Chicago Bears was 27 when he won the same award last year.



Can this logic also be applied when it comes to talking and dealing with women? After a few years of being in the "game" and making mistakes, learning from them and maturing, does a man figure out what he's capable of and applying it with fervor when he's on the "playing field"? Like any good ball player, I knew that I had it in me (started noticing at 15), at least that's what I would always tell myself. Instead of studying and breaking down game tape, I studied movies and watched my favorite actors and try to listen with a keen ear to what women like. Now of course, I'm not perfect and will fuck up from time to time (more times than not, lol), but that's no different than your favorite superstar player missing a shot at the buzzer or fumbling the football at the goal line.




In the past, I've been afraid to step to the plate for fear of striking out, but when I think about it, I hardly ever strike out. I may ground out (she's spoken for), may only get a single (her number), or a double (date), or a triple (affection, kissing), or I may even hit a home run (obvious, LOL). But the overall success rate is quite well.




Back to the question: Fellas, is this something that you realize from within at an early age (teens, early 20's) , or something you recognize in your later 20's, or maybe some of you all never realize it at all...........




My next at-bat is coming up. I'm in my prime. I'm going to enjoy this.






Thanks for Reading,

Robert Mack

30 Comments:

Blogger 1InTheSame said...

I noticed the "power" my first year in high school. Women just sort of fell into my lap..after then my "numbers" only got better. I'd have to compare myself to Kevin Garnett...I got "drafted" out of high school, benn on several All-Star teams, but have yet to find my championship team if you know what I mean.

Thu Sep 28, 12:01:00 PM  
Blogger nikki said...

hehehe@the cleverness of that title.

as for 'the power', i had a five year old boy flirting with me last week. i'm not sure if he knew what he was doing, but i wanted to step to his moms and be like "uh, sista...ya boy is gonna be a father in about five years if you don't check his ass now..."

Thu Sep 28, 12:54:00 PM  
Blogger 1969 said...

*sitting back with the popcorn waiting for the fellas to enlighten us**

Thu Sep 28, 01:04:00 PM  
Blogger Knockout Zed said...

This is coming from a nerd, so you might wanna take this with a grain of salt.

I have no game. Never had it, probably never will. My greatest success comes because I started learning enough about life outside of school, work and books.

The best thing I was ever told about women came when I was 23. It works like a muthafuckin' charm to this day. But that's still not the height of my shit.

I was married and in a committed relationship for a minute, but I'd have to say the height of the confluence of knowledge, sexual prowess, conversation, attractiveness, and style was around 30 to 31.

KZ

Thu Sep 28, 02:08:00 PM  
Blogger thee modern isis said...

Ok, so I had a Public Enemy moment when I first read the title.

lol I'm with Nikki on that one. I had a 11 year old invite me to his birthday pool party, then told me to wear a thong and winked at me.

I was moreso taken back due to the fact that the little bastid winked and blew a kiss at me that I couldn't reach out and smack em.

I'm predicting he'll be the father of 12 by the time he hits high school.

Thu Sep 28, 02:27:00 PM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

1
What's going on? drafted out of high school huh...wow....I saw my potential in high school but I wasnt ready for big time...as a matter of fact, Ill tell a story on how I know I wasnt ready...

Nikki
That sounds like my brother Todd Mack, just turned 16....he's been that way since he was young...I told you all that he was the one who told me that this bangin chick from my play liked me, and I was the one who was like naw, but she did have interest in me...

1969
Me too....me too...

KZ
That's what I mean...I feel like I'm climbing the mountain now, realizing that I can go higher...I haven't reached my zenith yet...

Isis
Wow....see what I said to Nikki...sounds like my lil brother again...well wait even he aint that bad..But I did say that he'll probably make me an uncle before I make him one...

But wait why I am trying to picture what you look like with a thong on even though I've never seen you....

Thu Sep 28, 02:54:00 PM  
Anonymous chele said...

Good question. I don't think it is gender specific. I've had "the power" since my early 20s but I didn't realize it until my late 30s. As I got older I became more discriminating and I learned that just because I could be down doesn't mean I had to be. You know?

Thu Sep 28, 03:27:00 PM  
Blogger T. Cas said...

Age 23 for me. I had just got out of a 3 year relationship and was not looking for anything serious. It was then that I realized that some women really dug me. Talk about swagger. I reverted a little in my late 20's but by age 30, it was back again.

Thu Sep 28, 04:05:00 PM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

Chele
Yeah I get you....I think...LOL...No I playing, I do..I like that

TCas
I'm going thru the same thing. My 2nd job the cable spot is a haven for black women and they love me, I just sit back sometimes like wow....

Thu Sep 28, 04:39:00 PM  
Blogger ----- said...

O.k. ~ I'm with 1969...chillin' and waiting to be enlightened! :D

*P.S. ~ I saw your bogus comment at Rashan's site. Don't do it like that Mr. Mack! :D*

~Trizzy

Thu Sep 28, 05:03:00 PM  
Blogger Organized Noise said...

I only have you by a year and I just got my first call up to the big leagues last weekend. I'm just hoping I don't get sent back to the minors anytime soon.

Thu Sep 28, 06:39:00 PM  
Blogger Nika Laqui said...

I agree with Zed(even though my comments won't be welcomed...*lol*)

A man doesn't learn his ass from a hole in the wall til he's about 31-35, depending on his upbringing and his responsibilities.....

Sexual prime may be younger, but a man knows what he wants once he's over the hill...(30 in this case). He's experienced women, of different backgrounds, ages, etc.

He knows what he's capable of and what he will not tolerate....

You almost there Mack, now where's the juice?

Thu Sep 28, 07:09:00 PM  
Blogger Phoenix said...

Hey mack - I say go for it. Just remember your stance, keep your elbow up and follow thru.

Thu Sep 28, 09:06:00 PM  
Blogger Stoяmy Dazέ said...

My only advice is Don't get caught up in the fluff, and maintain DC.

Thu Sep 28, 09:09:00 PM  
Blogger onefromphilly said...

I agree with Nsane/Nika. I think that once a man reaches 30, he can put 2 and 2 together and come up with 4 instead of 22!
The way you feel now means you're well on your way....enjoy the journey!

Fri Sep 29, 08:54:00 AM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

Trizzy
Sorry baby, it was my ill fated attempt at trying to say that I didn't want you to stop blogging.
Please forgive me
LOL...

Organized Noise
I've been to the majors a few times, and was sent down....Good luck on your "call up"...

Nika Laqui
CORRECTION - Your comments are always welcomed :)
I agree with you, I'm simply saying that I'm realizing that I have "power" now, which just means that I see it in myself and its coming to the surface, but it probably wont reach full maturity until I reach that age....then again I'm hoping to be married by 31 so all of my power would be "neutralized" by whoever my wife might be...
I'm still trying to squeeze the juice out....


Phoenix
My all time favorite stance is Gary Sheffield's and Darryl Strawberry's with the high leg kicks...
But anyways....I just need to avoid "swinging" at the wrong "pitch"...get it? LOL...


Stormy Daze
Hey you welcome, as I've never seen you here before...What's DC? Dick Control?
I'm good in that area, now back when I was like 22 or 23, I was banging left and right on smash and grab jobs.......I've slowed down quite considerably...like a turtle...instead of a jack rabbit..LOL (I never heard the jack rabbit term until I read a few ladies blogs)

Onefromphilly
Exactly...still got a few bumps on the road and detours along my way, I'm just finally starting to see "the way"....lol...I love speaking in analogies...

Fri Sep 29, 09:38:00 AM  
Blogger NegroPino™ said...

*taking notes*

Hey ROb
have a good weekend :-)

Fri Sep 29, 12:14:00 PM  
Blogger G. Mo said...

This is kinda long, so forgive me bruh.

In the context of a baseball game, I've hit for the cycle quite regularly in my lifetime. I've batted from the Bad News Bears stages up through the Minor Leagues and eventually made it to the Major Leagues. Your success in each stage depends upon a number of factors. You could be batting in a ballpark where hitting homeruns are easier to hit than another ballpark. Look at the pitcher who you're facing on the mound. Are you going up against someone who throws a 98 mph fastball? Hey, quite possibly you might've used performance enhancing drugs to assist you in your plate appearances. Do you feel successful when your stats are good, but the team loses? Do you continue to hone your skills and try to improve each day?

Basically I'm saying this. At the age of 34, I look back at all those so-called successful moments and realize that I wasn't as successful as I thought I was. Sure, I had a lot of fun... but being an All-Star hitter and not making it to the World Series has left me desiring more. That more is being in a long term relationship where I don't have to look back at my personal achievements to feel like I'm a winner. To step up to the plate in the World Series knowing I have a manager who supports me whether I hit a Grand Slam or a groundout. That right there means more to me than standing in Cooperstown all by myself holding up a Hall of Fame trophy.

Always view success not just by your achievements, but by the hard work and dedication it took for you to get there. That's what makes it all the more better. I wish you the best of luck as you step to the plate my brotha.

Fri Sep 29, 12:59:00 PM  
Blogger TTD said...

i 1st knew i had at um... 14.. freshman year in high school when n*ggas was on me.. i hit my prime at age 19.. when i was single & doing me..

Fri Sep 29, 01:02:00 PM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

GMo
I love it man......That's my point....so what's the championship? marriage? A relationship with a quality chick? In that case, lets just say I made the first round of the playoffs then....not even the 2nd or 3rd or finals...

TTD
Damn 19? Female version of Lebron? Wow...

Fri Sep 29, 04:48:00 PM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

@ALL YALL
I'm going to blog first thing Monday morning, even if its to do the meme from T-Cas's spot...I'm trying hard to get on a Mon/Wed/Fri blog schedule...

Fri Sep 29, 04:49:00 PM  
Blogger Mr.Slish said...

The Force. Can come at any time. I Knew I had it. I'm just picky.When I was younger my boys chased girls I would't brush up against. Why ? I new I could do better. So I waited. When I hooked up with Casey as a teenager it set the tone for me because she was really pretty. Now I'm not the most handsome brotha but I realized early on. That no one. Especially women question a confident man.

Remember Rob. Arrogance is the lock. Confidence is the key. It can open any door.

Sat Sep 30, 09:44:00 PM  
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Mon Oct 02, 12:19:00 PM  
Blogger Miz JJ said...

Remember to use your powers for good. And not just your own. Lol.

Mon Oct 02, 12:20:00 PM  
Blogger JoJo D. said...

Well Mack, I think when a man begins to think about a woman from a mental, spiritual, and emotional point of view, then he's ready, he's got "it". There's more to a woman than just her physical/sexual attractiveness.

If you're thinking only about her with the head that's in your pants, then you aint ready. If you're mature enough to be thinking of her with the head on your shoulders, then you're ready.

If that makes any sense...

Mon Oct 02, 05:33:00 PM  
Blogger The Mistress said...

You are too cute! Personally speaking I think men usually suck in their twenties. There are some exception of course but in my experience, men are better in their 30's. Probably women are too, I don't know cause I'm only 26.

:-)

You got the power but I bet you'll have more at 35 baby.

Mon Oct 02, 11:03:00 PM  
Blogger *snake*bite* said...

That writers block of urs seems to have disappeared - i need some help with mine lol!
But seriously - i reckon everyone steps up their game late 20's early 30's as i think many want to settle down and have someone there for them that is why the 'game' is so apparent and the power is like a supercharger.
Might tag this on my blog - if u don't mind x x x x

Tue Oct 03, 07:47:00 AM  
Blogger ----- said...

O.k. ~ so...it's Tuesday at 5:55pm (in the A)...and ummmm errrr uhhh no post from Mr. Mack?!?! Are we gonna have to fight...AGAIN?? :D

(we call this transference...cuz I haven't posted either...just for the record) :D

~Trish

Tue Oct 03, 05:03:00 PM  
Blogger Curlycurvynervy said...

I first noticed mine @ 15...got me in trouble, but I learned to leash it around 21. That was my primo year...

Tue Oct 03, 11:37:00 PM  
Blogger Bklyn Diva said...

LMAO @ you.. I will not comment..

I'm back Handsome

Wed Oct 04, 01:07:00 PM  

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