My Greatest Enemy is My Inner Me

This blog will tell the story of an up-and-coming young black man in his 20's

Thursday, August 03, 2006

Game of all sorts

Ok, I know for a fact that I can be very engaging, flashing my million dollar smile and bursting at the seams with personality "when I want to". I can turn on the charm like a light switch. I know that when I walk around my 2nd job, I get a lot of looks. Some ladies flirt. Sometimes I flirt back.

Which made me think of something.

I notice that if a chick I see is average looking, or has mild or medium appeal to me, I feel as though I can say whatever I want to her and feel no pressure or repercussion of what may happen next. I can smile in her face, say funny things and think to myself that I am making her day brighter by giving her a minute of my time, and if not, oh well its her loss.
However, when it comes to someone that I may be interested in, my mindset is different. I begin to think way too much. Going over different scenarios in my head. Wondering who's going to see me if I fail in my attempt. Study long, study wrong right?

So the question of the day is, does anyone else go thru that? Ladies, is this a trait that runs thru your mind as well?

Thanks for Reading,
Robert Mack


Anonymous MzNewAgenda said...

So the question of the day is, does anyone else go thru that? Ladies, is this a trait that runs thru your mind as well?

Yep...see something about the fact that if you are truely attracted to a person...your flirt becomes let's say..."Thought out and fake" flirting is supposed to be harmless fun but when you are trying to attract someone you may be interested in you think you must "step up the game" SMH and wind up coming off as "trying to hard" this goes for both men and women.

Thu Aug 03, 12:33:00 PM  
Anonymous MzNewAgenda said...

O yeah and guess what else...

FIRST Africans LOL

Thu Aug 03, 12:34:00 PM  
Blogger Royce's Daughter said...

I guess I'm average *shrug* but I don't ever remember feeling lucky to have some dude trying to talk to me LOL!!! Perhaps you are over thinking all this...I mean average, above average, who cares...if you are comfortable in the skin you're in that is what we will notice more then anything. Women love confidence. In my opinion, your "G" is going to give every indication of how comfortable you are with your get bonus points for being a cutie (which you are). So focus on your game but stay within the realm of your comfort zone (in other words...don't be phony). You do that and it won't matter if she's Halle Berry beautiful or Royce's Daughter cute...both will fall for you, because your comfortable being you.

Hell if you feelin you then why should we?

Thu Aug 03, 12:53:00 PM  
Blogger JoJo D. said...

Because a man knows his true princess when he sees her, that's why. When you're flirting with the "Averages", you're really just trying out your charm skills that you hope to have perfected by the time your true princess comes along.

I've noticed in my life time that men are open and flirty and full of laughs with women they're not really interested in. But as soon as the "Special One" comes along, they get all tie-tongued and don't know what to say to her to open up the dialogue.

Thu Aug 03, 01:04:00 PM  
Blogger 1InTheSame said...

I know how you feel...I have to really think about what I say when I am trying to talk to an overly attractive female..and often times end up over analyzing every thing..Like you said Study Long/Study Wrong... I agree completly with what Insanity said as soon as THE ONE pops up a brotha gets all stupid and shit talking like Mush Mouth from Fat Albert. Maybe we'll figure this thing out one day.

Thu Aug 03, 02:37:00 PM  
Blogger Phoenix said...

Everyone has made good points. all I say is if you really like her then don't think too hard. Just be yourself!

I don't know what you are worried about. All you need to do is stand, smile , and exude confidence and she'll flirt with you first.

Thu Aug 03, 04:04:00 PM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

Newy, (can I call you Newy?), that is so was just funny how I noticed this yesterday, how I can talk to some women....and thanks for being first!

Average? Yeah ok..................................................................................................................
I had to let the dots run to let you know I totally disagree with that....I'm a classic overthinker...BUT I only overthink when its the chick Im really diggin...*blushing* at you calling me a cutie, thanks...I'm just saying that I need to put the "G" all under the same tier of women. Wow, did I just use the word tier? LOL....and youre Royce Daughter BEAUTIFUL.

LMAO!!!! with the trying out the hit it right on the head...I did that last year at the Puerto Rican day parade...talked to a not so fine to get the game

1 in the same
Sup mane!! Yeah I was thinking about this because when this one lady at work sees me she smiles really big and I give her the eyes and what not. Then I tell myself "Ok be the same way with the ones you deem as winners too."

Most women that I put in that category do not initiate. Thats the reason why I missed out on potential pretty pussy (PPP) is because I didnt know the chick liked me due to me not saying anything and her waiting for me to say something. The worst. Closed mouth does not get fed, indeed. I love that axiom.

Thu Aug 03, 04:24:00 PM  
Blogger Nika Laqui said...

Rob, I am the same way...EXACTLY, I don't need to explain cause you took the words right outta my mouth.

We (you and I) need to be more confident and exude the same brightness, whether we like the person or not...

I get nervous, loss for words, stutter...its crazy, I can't even look them in the eye...

Thu Aug 03, 04:54:00 PM  
Blogger Atl_Mack said...

Same here man... I dont know why that shit happens, but I always try to control my outer behavior to act normal...

Thu Aug 03, 07:26:00 PM  
Blogger G. Mo said...

I feel ya on being a free spirit when it comes to someone you're not necessarily interested in, yet being somewhat contained when you have more of an attraction to someone. With one woman you're talking freely, laughing, joking etc. With the next woman you're stuttering, trying not to say the wrong thing and end up looking kinda foolish at times. It's crazy...

Thu Aug 03, 07:39:00 PM  
Blogger T. Cas said...

I think its natural to be nervous around beautiful women. But remember there is no such thing as "out of your league."

Thu Aug 03, 09:15:00 PM  
Blogger Tenacious said...

It's only when I like you do I start stuttering, blushing, and extreme smiling, I guess that's when the romantic side comes out

Otherwise I just smile charmingly and just be myself. Silly and hopeful I won't trip and fall and knock you over. I say whatever I want but that's because I do it anyway.

Thu Aug 03, 11:09:00 PM  
Blogger Mr.Slish said...

When I was younger I used to get nervous. Then I overheard something an old school cat said once. I qoute" Most Beautiful women are waitng for someone to talk to them. The reason why they keep to themselves in the club is not cause they're stuck up its because some dudes feel exactly the way you do Mack !

Say Hello to a pretty gal the worst thing she could say to you is Hi back..Then you let the dark side of your personality take over and STRIKE!!! like the cobra that you

Thu Aug 03, 11:51:00 PM  
Blogger *snake*bite* said...

Insanity got it bang on, even for women, we flirt and try out our charms and persuasion techniques so by the time prince charming does come along we are so close to perfect the gap is impossible to see.
As for your study long, study wrong that is true as you shouldn't overthink certain situations as if techniques come natural they will appear when you least expect it and win the love of your life?!?

Fri Aug 04, 06:25:00 AM  
Blogger NegroPino™ said...

Im always flirting and giving out compliments so i should be used to it..but once when a man i was attracted to strated asking me questions I got flustered and started blushing and that doesnt happen to me......

Fri Aug 04, 10:55:00 AM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

LOL!!! Good to hear the ladies go thru it too.

Atl Mack
First timer here? Welcome...I try the same thing, but my heart beats really fast and I sweat a lil, even its if cold out.

Another first timer? Thanks for coming by, check me out often I got another quick rant of the day..

You hit it right on the head right there. My cuz Smooth told me that one time too about a chick being out of your league.

A lady friend that I talk to on the regular goes thru that situation...I thought it didnt exist but she's living proof of it..she's gorgeous...anyways (lol)...cobra huh? Rob Mack the Diamondback? LOL...
I hope all is cool, I just read your blog and I seen the "F*ck you" side come out

where have you been? selling avon and eating toblerones? LOL....But thanks, that is so true

Wait you're going back to that moniker...i think Ms New Booty is my favorite so wait even it happens to you? No not Missy...LOL!

Fri Aug 04, 12:13:00 PM  
Blogger The Mistress said...

After much thought and consideration I can say that this is probably a man thing. Predominately anyway. Women don't usually have to take the reigns and approach men very often. Of course, some of us do, but I'll admit I'm not really one for chatting up a man I don't know like that. Not initially. But appearance takes a back seat to what comes out of his mouth so if he's talking good shit AND he's gorgeous, yes I will have some butterflies!

Fri Aug 04, 12:42:00 PM  
Blogger NegroPino™ said...

I have bagged some dudes before.......its nothing but u dont wanna be too agressive about needless to say none of these fellows are around so i guess it didnt work

Fri Aug 04, 01:39:00 PM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

I bet if I was in a UPS or Fedex uniform you would chomp at the bit..........*wink*

You can be agressive with me. 'specially cuz I'm passive. That would make my day right there.

Fri Aug 04, 02:52:00 PM  
Blogger Blah Blah Blah said...

Baby, I AM the average chick and I've never been flustered talking to a dude. I think it has to do with a tad bit of confidence, a dash of arrogance and a whollota arrogance. The lonely time I get flustered is when a man says he loves me....
I was raised by my dad and 4 uncles so being around men has always been in my comfort zone...more so than conversation and flirting....let's just say I know where my talents lie. LOL

Be comfortable and just be you....but neva eva let them see you sweat.

Fri Aug 04, 10:51:00 PM  
Blogger *snake*bite* said...

well actually i have been selling avon but not eating toblerone. I have been at the gym every other day after work. Those spare tyres in my hol snaps are slowing making their way to the scrap yard. I shall later be storytelling on my blog, but not today as it is sunday and i am off to brixton market.

Sun Aug 06, 05:22:00 AM  
Blogger DivineLavender said...

I believe I am a beautiful woman but I am big girl. Generally, I find that most men want or seem to desire the opposite of what I "look like".

On the other hand, I am extremely sensual and that comes through when I am flirting with men. I think that men then see me as sensual than just a big girl. It works my nerve that I have those thoughts. I get nervous but I ample it up a bit.

Then again, I think then men get stuck on my sexuality than sometimes it backfires in my life. I also find that I had to hide what I do and what I have done to get my foot in the door.

Sun Aug 06, 04:56:00 PM  

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