My Greatest Enemy is My Inner Me

This blog will tell the story of an up-and-coming young black man in his 20's

Thursday, July 06, 2006

Get over it! The Robert Mack Edition

This was something I wanted to get into a week or so ago, but just finally got around to it.

Many props to Nikki as well as T. Cas for this debate. I was going to call it The Great Straight Debate, but since it was called Get It Over It, I just decided to piggyback off of that.

Last week, I started to notice that a lot of blogs that I frequent are also visited by T. Cas, so I decided to check the boy out to see what he talks about. I then come across his entry called "No You Get Over It" which is a rebuttal to Nikki's entry titled "Get Over It" . The subject of these entries are based around that fact that many male bloggers do not post on each others sites. Nikki was saying that males don't respond on each other sites because it would be deemed as "dick riding" or being gay. As well as (my favorite) a "competitive" gene in men to see how many women can he get his on blog, which in turns means that he don't want any other man to take part in or "steal" his females followers from his blog to the other man's blog.

In my opinion, this is one of the best blog debates I've seen and it really struck a chord with me.

Some of T. Cas' responses were very thought provoking and somewhat valid. He pointed to the fact that some male bloggers are gay. Of course if you all remember my blog entry from back in March about the "Indecent Proposal" from a gay dude, then you know I'm an admitted homophobe. I try to stay away from anything that might even be construed as a lil "sweet". That being said, I haven't come across any gay bloggers, unless they lurk (like Freaky Deaky says) and don't comment, or they masquerade as females in the blogosphere.

He also talked about how some male bloggers "dick brag". LOL. Which brings me to why I started blogging in the first place. One of my guys, well actually My cuz Smooth's guy down in Dallas named J-Mack (no relation) put me up on this guy named Serial Dater. I checked out his blog and I thought his writing style was dope, and he was talking about women (my favorite subject) so with me being stuck in the corporate world for 8 hrs a day (14 now with 2 jobs), his blog gave me some refuge from it all. I didn't comment at first but I would look at all of the other people that did comment. (Sidenote: I used to see Nsane Lee Sane there and I would go by her page and I noticed she was from Chicago like me, and It took me a minute to get some courage to finally comment. Crazy, huh? Now she comments on my blog all of the time.) I think SD mentioned Knockout Zed in one of his entries so I decided to check him out (this was back when Zed had the gyros fast food cup as his background, LOL). Zed talked about women, BUT he also talked about everyday life as well. His relationship with his lady friend at the time he eloquently named Batshit was quite compelling, even to the point where I was a little disappointed if he didn't mention her. Some of the issues that Zed would talk about when it came to women sounded like some of same things I was going thru, not to mention that Zed has major skills with the keyboard (storytelling) so it hyped me up. I told myself, "Hey I got some stories to tell too. My life don't involve too much drama but I have issues with the opposite sex that I need to get out there to see if I'm on an island." I then checked out Mr. Slish's blog, and he told the story about how him and Mr. Venom became friends. It involved a woman, sorta (LOL). Now yes, I am more inclined to check out a male bloggers page if he's talking about women, but I'm a sex-crazed man that loves black women, what do you expect?

So does Robert Mack dick brag? Well......hmm........I don't think I do.......I don't purposely blog to talk about some chick I hit last night because that's not what I'm about. In actuality, I'm looking for a girl to be my "woman". Just finding one is the problem, I'm partly to blame for that. I'm extremely picky. I don't go out enough to see women. My girl Dynasty told me that sometimes when I talk about a female that it seems as though I'm only concerned with how long it takes before I bag that. That's not necessarily the case. Of course I'm not trying to take the girl out just to become "like her brother" (fellas , how many time have you heard those 3 words uttered?) but I'm not saying that I need to know right away if I can hit, I just want to know "if there is that possibility". Throw me some hints, you know?

But I'm digressing.

I've talked about all issues, from females that I like and vise-versa, having to go to court, and being in plays, and even rapping about being happy over taking my little brother to a Bulls game. Over the past week I just told a true "spill guts" story about my first girlfriend that I would love to be with if possible. So I'm not afraid to put myself out there, even if it doesn't make me look like a "Mack" or "Playa" or whatever. If I had a girlfriend I would cut off all of other "friends" that I mention here.

So the bottom line is, if you're a guy that's speaking on issues and concerns with women, stop by my blog and say "what up". I'll come by to peruse your world as well.

Truthfully, I made my blog hoping that the fellas out there would read it and relate to me. It just so happens that my following has more females, but the blogworld has more females in it, apparently. Which is just fine with me. Rob loves the ladies. (LOL)

Yeah I'll admit I don't openly seek out other guys' blogs. Why is that? I think its because I do get busy at work, and my blog roll has increased a lot, which means less work. But again, let it be known that any homeboy that comes by the blog to leave a comment, I will definitely check out theirs if they have one. Some guys have blogs that I don't feel a need to comment on, but that's not to say I'm not feeling it. Sometimes I have to get recommended to read someone's blog. Like for instance, I would see the boy Charles on a few people's pages and I thought about checking him out, but never did. Then someone told me to go take a glance at it, that he's a intuitive brotha and so I finally went by, and come to find out we're very similar in thought. See how easy and simple that was.

So in no particular order, these are the brotha's that I check out on the regular.

Knockout Zed - The "munkee"(LOL) that blogs daily, whether its to talk about Carmel or why he hates living in Satan's anus. His blog for the day could be a 4-line paragraph, or it could be a 1000 word essay. You just gotta check him out to see. I only hope to have a following like his.

Serial Dater - Talks about dating, rather candidly, after his divorce. Excellent writer. Paints a picture like a radio play-by-play broadcaster.

Slish - He's all in love now (BOOO!!!! - just kidding) but still hits you off with some great stories of the past.
In fact, his story about his childhood girlfriend compelled me to write about mine.

Venom - One of Slish's boys; is also a great writer WHEN HE DECIDES TO WRITE. Venom writes about as often as an oil change - every 3 months. LOL. Not that bad, but you get what I'm saying.

Charles - I call him a younger version of me (poor kid, lol). He's trying to find his niche in the world as he going thru school. Crazy skills on a pallet (means he can draw). Always insightful. Looking for some "good" females out in VA.

Others receiving votes (those that are into college sports understand what I mean by that.)
T-Cas, Big Daddy Kane (new cats I just checked out), Freaky Deaky, Amadeo, Sarccastik. That's just off the top of the dome, I'm sure there may be others but I'm extremely forgetful.

Damn, I hope these dudes don't think I'm dick-riding. LOL.

Thanks again for Reading,

The Puffy-chested (because of the fellas, lol) Robert Mack


Blogger T. Cas said...

Good shit, man. I have to admit that Nikki won that debate. I got over it like she wanted me too and started commenting on men's blogs too. You make a great point about there being way more females in the blog world. I took 7 back and forth comments on her blog and my blog and an IM session, but I can officially say that I am over it. I can also relate to there not being enough time to check out all the male blogs. I've seen you on Missy's and Nsane's blogs and like you, I said I'm gonna check this brotha out when I get a chance, but haven't done it yet. Thanks for taking the time to let me know what you about.

Thu Jul 06, 04:01:00 PM  
Blogger Knockout Zed said...

As a man, like T. Cas said, it's hard to show geniune admiration for a cat that you don't know out here in cyberspace. You'll come off like a dick rider and we ain't wired that way.

When you first started blogging, you reached out. I felt like a fuckin' herb 'cuz I knew if the situation was reversed, I wouldn't have done it. You actually shamed me into being a grown assed man.

Keep up the good work my younger blog brother.


Thu Jul 06, 04:06:00 PM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

What up, man...thanks for coming by...You and Nikki provided all of the fodder, it was something that I noticed but didn't realize that others noticed as well.

Yeah I know got me started, so everyone who likes/hates me can thank I never really thought about it that way as far as dick riding or whatever, I just wanted to get started. But thanks for the support.

Thu Jul 06, 04:35:00 PM  
Blogger nikki said...

i just wanna say that i'm glad that you brothas are representing. this makes me shed a tear or two out of pure happiness. :)

Thu Jul 06, 05:28:00 PM  
Blogger Nika Laqui said...

I don't deem it as dick riding just showing another man love or commenting to show your point of view...

Depending on the way you come across when writing about females will be considered braggin on yo dick...
For instance, I like to read men's opinion's on women, its like being a fly on the wall in a barber shop...

But Umm, yea, steer clear of those gay bloggers cause if I ever see you comment there (or anyone else), its safe to assume you're gay as well...

I wonder why it took you so long to comment on my blog....You blog stalker...*lol*

In response to Dynasty, in regards to you only persuing a woman if you know its a guaranteed hit, you're just like all men...

There's no such thing as a platonic female/male relationship unless they guy is gay...

If not, then either the woman or man, wants the other person...and just waiting til it happens...

Thu Jul 06, 05:58:00 PM  
Blogger Mr.Slish said...

I like this post. It takes good story telling to get me to comment on a male or female blog. I check out male bloggers quite often. But most times there stories don't intrigue me like yours Brotha Mack, Zed The Conquerer, Venom just for the comedy cause he's an ASS!!!, T cas once or twice, Big daddy kane once or twice, Serial all the dayum time. That nucca nasty..hee hee Thats about it. If ya have a good story I'll read it and comment..

Carry on Young Luke. The Force is strong in you...

Thu Jul 06, 09:34:00 PM  
Blogger Dynasty said...

I think this is a wonderful post!!! Like Nikki, I too almost shed a tear.

I stand by my initial statment about your intentions. You are the same one that said you are waiting for a 3-some to happen...remember? You wrote it. So, why should I think you are really ready to settle down?

Fri Jul 07, 09:28:00 AM  
Blogger *snake*bite* said...

@ Mr Slish - The force is strong within every man...

But back to the point, good story, i agree with you on the point with why do some men feel threatened by other men checking out their blog. Madness xx
It was just a quick note - gotta get back to work, the phones are ringing off the hook.
Might just let them stay that way.
Take care

Fri Jul 07, 10:17:00 AM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

I feel like this is like that song "You will Know" on jasons lyric soundtrack or that song The best man with all of the brothers coming for coming by...

Hey....recovered yet? LOL...I never thought of it like that either the dick ridin and all..i don't care, if i like a story, I'll comment you know...

Thanks for the love man...I agree with you...I'm still laughing at Venom and his latest Dr Feelgood'm gonna try to carry on, I got a major story that I've been holding for 4 months that I might finally get around to telling

Dynasty the Dyme (LOL)
You just gotta be like that huh? Why you bringing up old stuff huh? I said that I wanted to do a 3some before I get married and all of that...if I find a chick that im ready to settle down with and the 3some never happens, then I'm cool. I heard its overrated anyways...I just want to say I did it I guess. And if the right one come, Ill settle down with the quickness.

Hey! The force is getting stronger...with the force I mean my confidence...I may write about it next...I could understand how a man might feel threatened but I hope they don't feel that way about me, I'm just a regular dude. Now get back to work, got them people on hold and stuff trying to comment on my blog. LOL...

Fri Jul 07, 10:23:00 AM  
Blogger Bklyn Diva said...

good story!!! :) its funny how straight men deem it as dick riding while gay men use it as a network.. JUST MY PERCEPTION..

anyway good to see bruhs giving props to each other.. NOW LEMME MOSEY ON OVER TO CHECK OUT THE REST OF THE MENZES.. :)


Fri Jul 07, 10:56:00 AM  
Blogger JoJo D. said...

As a heterosexual woman, I DEFINITELY do not comment on other womens'"gay" blogs. I don't eat pussy, and I don't like to read other women talking about eating pussy. That's just me; sex is sex, and gay is gay; I just don't have anything in common with a gay woman. Besides, it is extremely difficult for me to navigate "gay" language and phrases. It took me a while to understand what the word sapphic means (if I'm even saying/spelling it right..)and I eventually turn the page after the first line or two of a gay person's blog. Not that I'm being 'phobic or anything like that. But most of the time when I visit other women's blog, they're always talking about celebrities and bullshit like that. Celebrities don't interest or excite me, so that's why I almost never leave a comment on another woman's blog, period. And the one time I did leave a comment, I guess the bitch didn't like what I said so she sent me an email and told me to fuck off with my whorish, weed smoking ass. Hey, I am who I am. And I keeps it real on my own blog, and some women can't handle that. Then too, I change templates so often that it's prolly hard for people to keep up with me. I don't have anything interesting to say anyway, so....

And what's wrong with a little dick bragging between the men bloggers? Hell, that shit be funny to me; it's what keeps me coming back to their blogs. I like reading a man's point of view; not that I'm trying to win Brownie points or anything. It's just that men really do have a sense of humor, and some women do, too, but I look at blogging as just one big conversation that's going on between millions of bored people. We need to have a Meet and Greet...

I have a feeling I sidetracked way off the subject with this one... if left to my own devices, I'd prolly be done wrote a whole thesis on a sunject. We Texans are longwinded like that. Please forgive.

Fri Jul 07, 12:57:00 PM  
Blogger NegroPino™ said...

I noticed after teh debate that men started commenting more......Good choice of men blogs....I blog with the RAINBOWS cuz we have teh same interest MEN of course but everybody issues still the same......

Hey Mr Mack :) WINK

Fri Jul 07, 12:59:00 PM  
Blogger Knockout Zed said...

Robert Mack,
Everything you write shall and will be used against you by female bloggers you try to see "offline".

Watch out!


Fri Jul 07, 02:42:00 PM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

Daddy's girl...
Hey I'll be your daddy....just like daddy (like the pac song, one of my favorites)
Come by again please...I'll be sure to mosey on over to your spot

Damn tell me how you really feel? da hell does sapphic mean...lemme go to urbandictionary...well nothings wrong with bragging, i'm just saying I don't intend to do it just to say "hey I got this chick jocking me" or whatever...i mean if it happens it happens but I dont purposely blog JUST to write about that...

Missy with the Ill Nana
Yeah I guess the bruhs are talking...but I can't get with the

What did I say? Or is this just a thumbs up because of your prior experiences?

Fri Jul 07, 03:36:00 PM  
Blogger 4EverJennayNay said...

i enjoyed this post mainly because its just good to see dudes being cool with each other. i'm glad to see dude working to get over it. thas wassup!

Sat Jul 08, 01:30:00 PM  
Blogger The Sarccastik Variable Why said...

i'll read another dude's blogs if it involves woman or if it's interesting enough to keep me from clickin that X on the top corner...keep doing your thing..

Mon Jul 10, 02:23:00 PM  
Blogger Phoenix said...

Baby don't concern yourself with who is or isn't reading your blog. The folks who love your writing will comment and keep coming back. any gay dude out ther will not be frequenting your (Zed, SD or slishy)blog for any length of time, just due to the subject matter. So keep on writing.

Tue Jul 11, 09:05:00 AM  
Blogger Phoenix said...

Oh by the way check out my blog. I posted a poem for you (and the fellas).

Tue Jul 11, 09:14:00 AM  
Blogger Royce's Daughter said...

*sigh* very proud of you Mr. Mack...notice I always call you "Mr." Mack...that's intentional. I've noticed a maturity in you and your writing that goes well beyond your years in age.

I am also proud of the fellas for being so willing to acknowledge the problem and trying to correct it. It's not dick riding, but it is acknowledging talent...a talent that can't be denied. Bloggers all have different writing styles, different stories to tell...everything isn't for everyone but when you find something that is entertaining or thought provoking why not acknowledge it?

None of us need validation (I hope) but it is nice to see that others can appreciate your work...the serious and the not so serious.

Unfortunately, women bloggers can be somewhat shady too. And I try not to trip about commenting on a sistahs blog because I'm not afraid to let another woman know that I appreciate her skill. Reading others blogs (male and female) not only encourages me and my writing but also gives me some valuable lessons and advice for how to deal with real issues.

We all need to stop trippin! If I like your stuff I'm make myself at home and comment you to death. I'm comfortable with who I am, which makes it easy for me to compliment others when I like who they "appear" to be and what they have to say.

Mr. Mack...keep growing, reaching, being...YOU!

Now let me go check out some of these brothers you mentioned...

Tue Jul 11, 10:41:00 AM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

Busy as hell right now, will post something hopefully later today or early Weds morn...

I hope the bruhs out there read my blog to make sure I aint the only dude going thru my issues/questions/concerns.

LOL...yep that red x...or the green arrow pointing towards the left....

Naw I aint worried, just wanted it to be known that dudes aint gotta lurk thats all...I'll check out your page sometime today, maybe after 3pm central time...workin...

First off, I love the essay!!!!!
LOL Maturity huh? Not all of the time, especially with my next story.... Its funny, not once have I ever not wanted to comment on a dude's blog cuz I felt I was ridin him or nothing, but I could see how it could be deemed as such..Thanks so much for the heartfelt comments, you got me blushing over here.

but wait, what up with the ladies being shady too?

Tue Jul 11, 01:15:00 PM  
Blogger Tenacious said...

Ah another fellow Chicagoian :-)

Just browsing through...I defin. will be coming back

Tue Jul 11, 02:10:00 PM  
Blogger Charles said...

See...this is the kinda stuff I miss when I take a hiatus. Thanks for the props too. I don't deem commenting on guys blogs as dick riding...I'm always on sarccastik's blog all the time cause he keeps it madd interesting. I'm glad you see alot of similarities in me though...that means you can tell me what to steer clear from. And some of these other cats you mentioned...never heard of....gotta check them out too. Thanks again for the shoutout.

Wed Jul 12, 11:09:00 AM  

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