My Greatest Enemy is My Inner Me

This blog will tell the story of an up-and-coming young black man in his 20's

Tuesday, April 11, 2006

Do you ever?

More of random thoughts/current events.

* Fellas, (or ladies), you ever felt like you were under pressure to date someone that "has it all", or better yet someone that meets the approval of your family or friends? I ask because I feel as though people expect me to be with a certain type of female, a prissy "ballerina" type (LOL). I think that further adds to me being picky. My father is a handsome man (I look like a taller, slender version of him) and my mom is very beautiful. Both are in their late 40's but you would never know at first glance. So I guess part of me is going thru a thing where I want someone who is as beautiful as my mom was at this age. Yeah I know what your saying, I gotta pick someone that I'm truly happy with, I can't live my life for others, yada yada yada...I didn't ask for all of that, I just want to know if others(especially my brothas) go through this same thing?

* Fellas (or ladies), you ever know a chick (or man) that you have moderate interest in but don't really pursue her (or him)? Last week at my 2nd job, this chick named Brandy had interest in the boy that I didn't know about, and just playing around with her , I say "Brandy, let me get your number." Now I'm expecting her to laugh it off and be done with it, but a minute later she stops by my desk with her contacts on a ripped piece of paper. Ok, I'll take it! On Saturday, a few days after "coppin the digits" (LOL), I see Brandy again. I say hello, expecting the same back. But the first words out of her mouth are "Why didn't you call?" Wow. I didn't even think she remembered. I guess she was feeling the boy more than I thought. I came up with some bs excuse, well I am truly busy but if I'm really intrigued, I will find a way to keep in contact. My problem is this, Brandy is a decent looking chick , peanut butter complexion, micro-braided hair, she's thick but she's an extra value meal away from being "big boned". I feel bad because I asked for her number but I don't think I would want anything else but a quick hit or two, and I'm not *trying* to be on that right now (although my actions sometime prove otherwise). And I think that I'm trying to hold out for a more desirable chick as well, and I don't want another sex partner added to the list if she ain't a possible girlfriend. And Brandy aint a possible GF in my opinion. But baby girl is thick, LOL.

* Fellas (or ladies), do you know someone that if, you all could be together, you know for a fact, without a doubt, that it would be love? But that person has another mate?

* I got hooked up with a 20 year old chick by a friend at work. I checked out her picture on her "Myspace" page, and she's nice looking. Problem is she stays all the way out in Elgin, which is a good 60-90 (depending on traffic) from the South Side of Chicago. And she is supposedly going to school out of the area in the fall (although I have not confirmed that yet). So I'm not sure if she is girlfriend material either, but could be a summer back up plan for those nights I don't want to deal with "Mrs Palmer" (LOL, I love that terminology).

* I also feel a need to disclose that just because a women has a child, does not count that person out in my eyes. I just have preferences like the next person, that's all. I might have riled up a few readers (LOL) with my thoughts last week. *Robert luv the kids* I dated a girl last year who had an 8 year old daughter that I liked a lot and she felt the same about me. Apparently the daughter liked me more than the momma, (LOL, maybe that story may come up sometime.....), but that's ok. You live and you learn.

* Just open my mouth. That's what I try to tell myself. Quit assuming so much. Saturday morning, I went into Walgreens, and as I go to the check-out, I notice a pretty, older, short haired woman behind the register. Her facial expression was "don't bother me, just check out your items and get going!". Well I wanted to test that hypothesis, so as I'm checking out, I tell her "Don't look so mean". She then gives a big smile and says "Am I looking mean? I'm not mean, its just been a long morning, that's all. You just wanted to see me smile." And I come back with "Yes, I admit it, but it is a nice smile". (I told you all I have some game, just scared to use it, LOL). The point of that story is that I need to quit assuming, but that's what happens when you think too much. Just like a ball player. It's funny how life and sports imitate one another. A basketball player that thinks too much on the court will not be on the court for long. You ever notice that when a player has an open shot and it takes him an extra two or three seconds to shoot the ball, more times than not he will throw up a brick? Study long, study wrong, indeed.

*There are some very attractive bloggers out there. They know who they are.......*wink*

Thanks all for reading,

Robert Mack


Blogger Dynasty said...

Sometimes I do feel like I'm suppose to be with a certain type of man because people expect certain things from me...they expect my standards to be ultra high (which they are), but I have friends...male friends that have told me that my ex, for instance, was beneath me. Those were his exact words...that's pressure. I know that everyone is looking to see who Dynasty is going to be with because I don't call men my boyfriends too often.

As a woman, I like to be pusued. So, even if I had moderate romantic interest in someone I wouldn't mention it and if he doesn't we'll end up the best of friends....LOL!

I have known someone that if we would have met before him and his girl did we would be making beautiful music. He and I dealt with each other while he was living in Boston and on a break from his girl. Nothing heavy materalized, but we remained friends and still talk. Our quasi relationship ended when he moved back to LA and they have since gotten back together. He left an imprint in my life and on my heart and he was my bestfriend and lover. Funny...he's a gemini, too...

Good to hear that you love the kids :)

You are correct...There are some very attractive bloggers out here...LOL!

Tue Apr 11, 11:01:00 AM  
Blogger LUVIN ME said...

I feel you on being with a certain 'type' of person because that's what everyone wants for you.

It's nothing wrong with being picky...that way, you get what you want. It's better to be picky in the beginning and find what you are looking for, than to get with someone who you like a little, and find out later that you are not satisfied with your choice.

Tue Apr 11, 11:08:00 AM  
Anonymous Tiger said...

I have never thpught of you being with a prissy type chick. You know that I don't even like them type of girls. I just want you to be happy.

Tue Apr 11, 12:29:00 PM  
Blogger i like liquor and tv said...

it would have been funny if the WalGreen's lady would have smiled real big and had missing teeth.

Anyway I feel ya on the kids thing. For some reason I won't kick it with a guy with kids.

Tue Apr 11, 02:16:00 PM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

You've truly taught me the meaning of "opening my mouth". Thanks. Oh and I need to be careful of being in the Friend Zone (LOL)

@Luvin Me
I'm thankful my moderate feelings and "settling" towards some females has not ended in me becoming a father. Whew! That's reason alone for me to be happy everyday, you know?

@Tiger Hoodz
Well not necessarily YOU, but my mom and other peoples. But yes, I would like to be happy too. Thanks, cuz.

That would have been something huh? And you feeling me on the kids thing. Where is Dynasty???? (LOL)

Tue Apr 11, 04:05:00 PM  
Blogger Nika Laqui said...

RobMack you are really something else..."You and Jesus", sorry JDs revenge quote, I do that from time to time. Quote movies....

Anyway, I think we have all been there where the person you will live happily ever after with is involved, or moreso, blinded by love that they don't see that the girl is playing them and waiting to better deal they ass....(Puddy).

We all have been pressured by our parents to date a nice guy/girl, when deep down you want that bad boy/freak, but they know how to conduct thmeselves in public. Ballerina prissy broads don't give sloppy wet blowjbs...I've heard....

I too, don't want a man with kids...*lol*, baby mama drama, I may can deal with one. (Thats double standard, but hey, I don't want a man with kids...)

I'm glad your sis doesn't like prissy chics....*lol*

Tue Apr 11, 06:02:00 PM  
Blogger Dynasty said...

Closed mouths don't get fed...they end up in the Friend Zone...LOL!

Tue Apr 11, 10:32:00 PM  
Blogger Phoenix said...

Yo - you are too funny "one value meal away from being big boned" I was LMAO.

Yes I think I could love a certain someone but he is already with somebody else. His lost - keep it moving.

Tue Apr 11, 10:35:00 PM  
Blogger NegroPino™ said...


Im glad you was thinking with your BIG head and not your little head. SOme women can't respect that. U at the level right now where the next person you are intimate with you want as your girl I feel that. I was on that before and the next ddue was my man and it was LOVELY!!!!!!

Wed Apr 12, 07:51:00 AM  
Blogger sweetness said...

just this weekend i screamed on my grandmother. i told her she had to stop puttin this press on me to find a mate that met her expecations. life is so funny. everything u wrote i'm goin through, thought about or went through it.

Wed Apr 12, 09:20:00 AM  
Blogger sweetness said...

just this weekend i screamed on my grandmother. i told her she had to stop puttin this press on me to find a mate that met her expectations. life is so funny. everything u wrote i'm goin through, thought about or went through it.

Wed Apr 12, 09:34:00 AM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

@Nsane Lee Sane
Now see why you gotta say stuff like that? Thanks to you, I gotta walk around work this morning with a book in front of my pants! (LOL)...Tiger is far from prissy, she a ride or die chick for real! That's my cuz!

I'm very hungry. (LOL)

I say the same thing - It's their loss. Oh well..

@Ms New Booty
Hey U...don't get it twisted, the little head has thought for me MANY times because little head doesn't want to be pacified by Mrs Palmer all of the time (LOL!!!) But I try to be good......I try....I think.....

Thank you, I'm so glad that I'm not the only one that goes thru this. I think I probablt put more pressure on myself because I see my father and some of the decisions he made and I try to be better than him.

@Sweetness (again)
It was so bad that you had to say it twice? (Just playing!!)

@ The Fellas
Where my boys at? Slish, Venom and em? I need yall's input too.

Wed Apr 12, 10:39:00 AM  
Blogger Mr.Slish said...

Sorry dog...still recovering from my hangover from Saturday Night's B-day party

I have a soulmate but her soulmate is someone else and he does not know what he has. So what does Slish do? I hit on her anyway, tell her she needs to get rid of Dr Dolittle nad get with Dr Shivago(did I spell that right)..

Now go back to the walgreens and tap that cashier on her left ass cheek.

Wed Apr 12, 11:22:00 AM  
Anonymous Tiger said...

@ Nsane Lee Sane- What can I say I got to have his back. That's what family do for each other. Prissy chicks are just to much into themselves to be worrying about anybody else.

Wed Apr 12, 02:16:00 PM  
Blogger Paula D. said...

Yes, I have felt that type of pressure to be with 'a certain type of person'. Now, I just don't give a damn what people think.

I try not to judge guys based on the fact that they have kids. Now, if they have some crazy ass baby mama's a wrap!

Wed Apr 12, 04:50:00 PM  
Blogger Nika Laqui said...

You're right Tiger, the funny thing is...Puddy's GF is a prissy chic, by his own admission. She doesn't give sloppy wet blowjobs, *lol* and she's more concerned with lookin good, than getting down and dirty.....*lol*

Wed Apr 12, 05:53:00 PM  
Blogger Nika Laqui said...

and she can't fight....*lol*

Wed Apr 12, 05:54:00 PM  
Blogger Nika Laqui said...

so basically, a prissy chic will not help you fight, if some niggas tryna fuck you up.....ok I'm done...*lol*

Wed Apr 12, 05:57:00 PM  
Blogger Mr.Venom said...

Honestly I think everybody has these type of thoughts. The One person that meets all the expectations they have yet they cannot have them. Some say follow your heart, but the heart has a way of playing tricks on ya.

Thu Apr 13, 07:19:00 AM  
Blogger Honey-Libra said...

I will def have to come back by and read more. I have experienced some of the things on your list....

Thu Apr 13, 01:29:00 PM  
Blogger Robert L. Mack said...

@ Slish
LOL...That's all I can say. I briefly talked to a walgreens chick one time, but she was young. Only 20 at the time, I was 24. She was a cutie, but was playing for the other team. So I was still intrigued, trying to get my menage on, but I guess she liked the carpet more that the potential pole. And her mom had the nerve to try to grill me like her daughter was pure. I wanted to be like "Do you know your daughter like women too!" Anyways, I digress.....

Sometimes I wish I didn't care what people think. One of my flaws.

You keep talking about wet and sloppy BJ's and you're going to make me send a instant message to "Chappelle #1" asking her for a special "lunch" date. LOL

@Nsane and Tiger
Wait - Just because a chick is prissy don't mean they ain't scared to get some precipitation on the pole (LOL). They just try to act like they don't. That being said, I'll take a ghetto/girly girl in a heartbeat.
A prissy chick probably'll watch me getting beat up, saying "stop! don't hurt him!" LOL

Ok, the brothas came thru for me. Appreciate it! Yeah the heart does play with you, as a matter of fact it may come up in the next installment about that.

Thanks for coming by, what took so long?

Thu Apr 13, 03:21:00 PM  
Blogger Dynasty said...

For the Prissy chick conversation...

Men want a lady in the streets, but a freak in the bed...Thank you Lil John for breaking that down...LOL! So, there is nothing wrong with being "prissy"...that's just a preception anyway...

Thu Apr 13, 03:49:00 PM  
Blogger Royce's Daughter said...

I have a soulmate but his azz is still looking for his soulmate...go figure. We've been "Best Friends" for a minute and we dated once but I messed he doesn't want to mess up our friendship. Yeah I know what that means. So unfortunately I live with it but sometimes it SUCKS.

I suffer from trying to please my father too much. I know what he expects from me so I tend to try to make sure the men I date reflect that even if that isn't always what I want to do. I know...I'm a dayum fool!!!

I Really enjoy your blogs...

Wed Apr 19, 10:50:00 AM  
Anonymous Prototype said...

Well, I think I have a different perspective. I don't believe in soul-mates but I know I have missed several opportunities for lack of better terminology. I'm with the type of peron I am expected to be with, mainly because he meets my descriptions. Once upon a time, I had a guy who looked great on paper for whatever that's worth, but his personality was boring. So?????? Like Savon said in Love Jones: "You are with who you are with"....Make the shit work....-----Prototype

Wed Apr 26, 01:00:00 AM  

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